Hey guys, so i had several people ask how this went two years ago lol. Yes, i know i am a bit late to the party, but hey since my daughter turns 2 in a few days. why not? I decided to write a post about my Labor as a first time mom especially since it’s been sitting in my draft since a few weeks after my labor.
Labor as a first time mom
I was 40weeks and 3 days when Demi decided she was ready. During my pregnancy, I was very active and hence i had expected the baby to come early. At 40 weeks, i would go to the mall and walk around for hours to induce labor, i also did lots of squats and lunges. I tried castor oil which i had heard was pretty crazy! It didn’t do anything for me besides give me a terrible case of diarrhea for a whole day OMG. Note to self, never use castor oil even in a bad case of constipation. Anyway, my parents came in from Nigeria and would wake up in the middle of the night praying for baby to come out lollll
40 weeks and 3 days
So 3 days past due, i went about my day normally. Around 6 pm, i got curious and asked my mum how it felt when water breaks, to which she said i can’t miss it. Oh, i forgot, 2 days to when i was due, we had a false alarm, i thought my water broke so we went into the hospital at 5 am, they checked me and said it was just a lot of discharge but not my water arghhhhh, i was already so excited lol.
Moving on, so at about 6:30 pm that day (Tuesday12th of January), i felt a bit weird, went to pee then came back downstairs to my parents. I then decided to go to the pharmacy to pick up some meds for my dad but before i left i felt another urge to pee, which i did again. I looked into the toilet bowl after and the pee looked all white and powdery but i thought nothing of it and left to the pharmacy.
At the traffic light to turn to the pharmacy, i suddenly felt a contraction and whooshhhhhhhh it was like someone poured 2 buckets of water on me! My mum was right i couldn’t miss it! So, I sat at the traffic light for a few seconds then started to turn round to head back home because i was soaking wet. I called my husband and my parents to tell them what had happened. Got back home and started to get ready to go to the hospital. I called the hospital and informed them so they said to come in right away. My mum, of course, told me to eat something but stubborn me didn’t listen (always eat before you leave ladies!)
Arrived at the hospital
We got to the hospital around 8 pm, they strapped me down and got vitals etc, tested the water and yes it was my water that broke duhhhhh.
I got admitted to my room. After all the tests etc were run, i got to walk around the floor with hubby while my parents went back home. The doctor came and said a baby should be here by 3 pm the next day but of course my African mum was like “no way, she will come by 3 am in Jesus name!!
At this point, the contractions were just starting but i could still laugh here and there. I was only 2cm dilated at this point lol. I always thought by the time water breaks you fly up to like 6cm, guess i thought wrong. Hubby was allowed to stay, so he tried to catch a few hours of sleep but couldn’t really get much. I started having stronger contractions then at 4 am the doctor came and checked me then said i was only 4cm dilated…….what in the world????? my mum called and panicked when she heard i was only 4cm then proceeded to head back to the hospital to join us lol.
Oh by the way i was not planning to use epidural, i told everyone that came into the room not to mention the word epidural or they would be sent out!
Hubby texted my bestie around 7 am (i didn’t tell her earlier cause i knew she would call out of work and run down there lol), of course when hubby told her, she was there in like an hour lolllll and called out of work for the whole day, bless her heart!
Around 10 am i was still 4cm again! so i just got so sad and was in so much pain so i asked for pain meds instead of epidural. I got some Stadol and the pain felt more controlled even though i was seeing stars throughout. i know i was talking crap for a while lol. After 2 rounds of the pain med, the pain wasn’t controlled again. I was still at 4cm, i was nearly in tears and couldn’t believe with all this pain and all this time i was still at 4cm so i asked for the epidural because i knew if i didn’t get it, i was going to hate the whole labor experience and possibly die from the pain lolll.
Good thing i had signed it earlier, however, they were performing a c-section so i had to wait 30 minutes, those were the longest 30 minutes ever. I eventually got the epidural and can’t believe why i even thought i should do it without epidural like it was so amazing, now i could talk and laugh. My hubby, parents, bestie, and brother were in the room and kept turning their heads away or screeching when i cried out in pain from the contractions before the epidural.
Still 4cm dilated
Again around 4 pm, i was still at 4cm, they had started Pitocin which i maxed out on. Good thing i got the epidural because the pain from this was CRAZY!!!
After about an hour, the doctor said her heart rate was dropping and my contractions weren’t progressing so i may need a c-section but that she would wait another 2 hours to see. I started tearing up when she left. I texted a couple friends to pray for me, hubby, mum, and others started praying and called some pastors as well. Always surround yourself with people that know God and can call on him at any time. I was still under the effect of the Stadol medication so i kept drifting in and out of sleep so couldn’t pray much.
Finally, 6cm dilated
After 2 hours, she came and thank God, she said i had moved up to 6cm so she left me. We kept going at it until about 9 pm when she came and said i was very close, omg finally the moment was here i couldn’t even believe it! Around 10:30 pm, she came in and it was time to PUSH!!!!! Everyone left the room except hubby. I had a couple practice rounds and then finally started pushing for real. The epidural was already wearing off so i could feel all the pushing and it was so much pressure down there! Anyway, she finally made her grand entrance at 12midnight on the 14th! I couldn’t even stand, i was so weak. They had to hold me to go to the bathroom then wheel me over to the room we were to stay in.
In summary, my labor was about 28hours of craziness lol.
MAYBE i should have done a video lol, this is so longgggggg…..But all in all, God was faithful, i prayed for a vaginal birth and he gave it to me, yes i prayed for a natural one without epidural and so many people pray for vaginal but have to get c-section. No matter how it goes he is always in control, his ways are not our ways and the most important thing is for everyone to come out healthy. Never feel like a failure just cause it was c-section vs vaginal. I have heard some people make it seem like you had less of a labor experience or not strong enough just cause it was a c-section. Again eat before you go to the hospital!!! Happy reading!
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